In therapy, the focus is always on my clients. I only share information about myself if it benefits the client. I know this does not stop people that work with me now, or may be thinking about working with me, from being curious about me outside of being a therapist. While a lot of this information can be found on my about me page, I did add some extra nuggets in case you were curious.
- I took the long route to becoming a therapist. When I entered undergrad I was solely focused on becoming a Psychologist. For no other reason than I liked the sound of people saying, “Dr. Eboni.” I am too cool to go by my last name. For reasons that will be discussed in #4, I ended up back in Houston with the same dream that was a little delayed. About 1.5 years after I graduated from undergrad, I started at Sam Houston University to get my Master of Arts in Psychology. After completing that program I learned that my options would be limited unless I went for my PhD which for most programs meant getting my masters again. I had been hearing about Counseling for a while but always brushed it off because I was destined to become a Psychologist. After talking to a few counselors that had been through the program at Sam Houston, I decided to check it out. I could get a second Master’s degree and start practicing sooner than later. While there are a lot of differences between Psychologists and a Counselors/Therapists, the parts that I loved (working directly with clients, helping couples reconnect and have a loving relationship, working for myself, being a resource for the community) I could do as a marriage and family therapists. So I went beck and got my Master of Arts in Counseling with a focus in Marriage and Family Therapy. All of this to fulfill my desire of becoming a relationship therapist with a focus on intimacy and sex
- I host a weekly sex and relationship podcast, Room for Relations and I’m the editor of the website of the same name. I have always felt that my friends and I have ridiculous conversations that were often prompted by my interests in new information regard sex and relationships. While I never thought this would be a part of my brand has definitely turned into a fun way to talk about a topic that I would otherwise only discuss in a therapeutic environment. As we started the podcast and more interest grew, I created a website to hold the podcasts and the occasional articles written about similar topics.
- I was born and raised in Houston Texas. I love Houston and have been here most of my life. I did go away to college and spent a summer abroad but otherwise, I have been here in Houston.
- I went to undergrad in New Orleans and my senior year was interrupted by Hurricane Katrina. We are known as the Katrina class as we were the 1st class after the devastation of Hurricane Katrina to “walk the oaks” of Dillard University in July of 2006. As I stated in #1, my journey to become a Psychologist was interrupted because as most people were applying to PhD programs, I was back in Houston completing a semester at the University of Houston. Upon returning to Dillard in the Spring, many of my teachers with whom I had built a relationship understandably chose not to come back to New Orleans. I’m sure there were ways around these obstacles but at 21, I felt my options were limited and chose to come home to Houston and help care for my father who had been sick most of my senior year.
- I spent a Summer abroad in Oslo, Norway. The summer before my senior year and Hurricane Katrina, I was invited to study abroad in Oslo, Norway. Now I will be honest, when the Dean of the school walked in and asked if anyone would like to go to Oslo, I raised my hand immediately without having any knowledge of Oslo or where exactly Norway was located. All I knew is that I wanted to study abroad and when I went to our international studies department a few months before I was told it was too late. After securing a scholarship in the program, I went to Norway alone and had one of the most amazing experiences of my life. Along with exploring a beautiful country I would have never thought to visit, I was able to “backpack” through Europe with one of my best friends. Backpack is in quotes because we mostly stayed in hotels and slept on trains. We were to scared of the hostel thing and didn’t really know anyone who had traveled that extensively at the time.
- Favorite foods are French fries and nachos. While I don’t normally eat them together I am not mad when it does happen. As I embark on living a healthier lifestyle, these things are eaten in moderation but that does not change the fact they may be the way to my heart (also hot fries… LOL).
- For about a 2-year period I was the main person doing premarital counseling for many the Catholic churches in the Houston area. I’m not Catholic but working within their system gave me a lot of respect for their efforts within their community. During my time as a student and during my internship I was able to work with hundreds of couples as they began their marital journey. Along with my education in couples counseling I was trained as a facilitator for the Prepare/Enrich. Working in this capacity solidified my love for creating a strong foundation for new couples and helping marriages rekindle the feelings they had at the beginning of their life together. I still do premarital counseling in my own practice.
- I am one of the Co-founders of Melanin and Mental Health™. In the Fall of 2016, I was lucky enough to meet a fellow therapist via social media. After several lunches and conversations about the state of mental health in Black and LatinX communities we decided we wanted to not just talk anymore. Melanin and Mental Health was born out of a desire to connect individuals with culturally competent clinicians committed to serving the mental health needs of Black & Latinx/Hispanic communities. Bottom line: We wanted our communities to be better so they can do better!
- I absolutely love podcasts. It has nothing to do with the fact that I’m a podcaster. I am a podcaster because I love podcasts. I’ve been listening to talk radio since I was a kid and often as an adult I would try to find any type of conversations I could because I think there’s nothing more interesting than people talking about topics they enjoy. I listen to about 10 podcasts weekly and another 10 I binge on long drives or while cleaning and cooking.
- At one point I thought I might be a forensic psychologist. I absolutely love learning about serial killers, criminals, and trying to figure out why they do what they do. I am the person no one wants to talk to when it comes to judging a persons criminal decisions. There will be a long conversation about their family situation, environmental factors and how their own psyche led the astray. Ultimately, while it is still quite interesting to me, my fearfulness helped me decide that relationships and sex may be a better fit for me. I indulge my interests through the ID channel, documentaries and an occasional binge of Criminal Minds.
So, there you have it. 10 things you may not have known about me or may not have wanted to know. Anything else you want to know? Ask me in the comments below because if you ever meet me in my office, it will be all about you.